International Women's Day: Confidence Is IN

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Happy International Women's Day to all my beautiful, strong, bossy, badass babes out there!

I am so proud to be a woman, and I am so touched by the women's movement that is happening each and every day to get us all closer to real, actual equality.

If you're reading this and you're a woman, I hope you know how special you are.

If you're reading this and you're a man, I hope you know how special women are. 

I am a f*cking feminist through and through, and I honestly believe that whatever you want, you CAN have. (I mean, within reason. I want Ryan Gosling but IDK.) 

Women, by nature, are badasses. We are strong, resilient, emotional, irrational, beautiful, courageous, oppressed, enlightened, playful, funny, smart, rich, poor, plus size, tall, short, crazy, independent, awkward, sweet, bitchy—and everything in between. 

We are women. And we are here. 

I've seen a lot of inspirational international women's day posts today, and many of them have honestly moved me to tears. Partly because I'm PMSing, but partly because I am so PROUD of us. 

I want to first give a shoutout to all of my female family members. You are all absolute rockstars. For those of you who don't know, I am really, really close with my mom, and there's a reason for that. I'm not going to say she was the perfect mother—because she's a human—but she was damn close. She has always been a literal all-star, and she has taught me to be the same. 

For as long as I can remember, people (other girls) have made fun of me (to my face and behind my back, I'm sure) for being full of myself. 

And guess what? It has literally never bothered me. You know why? Because they're right. I AM full of myself. And you should be, too. That's one of the most important lessons my mom ever taught me. If you don't believe in yourself, who will? You can be your own best friend or your own worst enemy—which will you choose?

People will hate because they're jealous. Not jealous of the way you look, or the clothes you wear, or even your personality—they're jealous of your confidence. 

I am not saying I am confident each and every second of the day—far from it actually. I suffer from anxiety and depression, which can be a knock to the ol' confidence meter, but I am always able to pick myself back up & get my sh*t together because that's what I was taught to do. 

Confidence is so important for women. Especially in a "man's world." 

Let's not shame other women for having confidence. Let's praise them, and learn from them. 

People are assholes. Women are assholes. 

Let's all stop being assholes, and actually support each other, k?

What are things—as a woman—that make you confident? 

Is it your looks? Your intelligence? Your PhD? Your business? Your children? Your partner? Your body? Your wardrobe? Your bank account? Your family? Your friends? Your—what? 

For me, confidence is definitely something that comes from within and is encouraged by outside factors—so, my family, my friends, my partner. 

But there are also certain things I can do to make myself feel more confident: 

  • Geting my nails done. I always feel like I have my sh*t together with a fresh gel manicure. If my nails are a mess, so is my life. 
  • Taking care of my skin. SKIN IS IN. I can't say this enough. If I had to choose between investing in my wardrobe and investing in my skin, I would ALWAYS choose my skin. Fashion is cyclical; skin is forever. 
  • Taking care of the space that I am in. I am a busy person, but I am also a lazy person. This may sound like a contradiction, but believe me—it's my life. It's easy for me to let the laundry pile up, or let the dishes to go unwashed—or whatever—because I literally LOATHE cleaning, but I ALWAYS feel better about life when my space is clean. I honestly believe that physical clutter impacts mental clutter. So let's all do ourselves a favor, and CLEAN. UP.
  • Exercising regularly. I see a lot of people say, "Oh. I hate exercise." But no, I actually HATE it. There are literally ten thousand other things I would rather do than exercise. Name anything. Watching TV? Check. Eating? Check. Shopping? Check. Staring at the wall? Check. I hate it, guys! BUT I will say I always feel better after I do it. It makes me feel better about my body and my health. It's so evil but so necessary. 
  • Keeping my closet stocked with clothes I LOVE. I know I preach this all the time, but it's TRUE. If you're not obsessed with something you're wearing, it. needs. to. GO. Buh-bye. Feeling confident in your clothing is so important. Trust me! Donate or sell everything that no longer serves you so someone else can enjoy it, and you can focus on clothing that makes you feel confident in your own skin. 
  • Not procrastinating. Ok this is something I don't know if I will ever outgrow. I remember pulling all-nighters in college (literally how did I do that?? Just thinking about that now makes me want to take a nap). I had to do it because I was a notorious procrastinator (still am), but I am making strides each day to break that nasty habit (so hard, y'all). I always, always, always feel so much better about life and so much more confident when I am on top of things (ie: NOT procrastinating), but it's definitely a work in progress. 

I challenge each and every one of you to really reflect on your life and your confidence, and share with us what makes YOU feel confident. 

Tell me in the comments or message me because I would LOVE to know.  Happy International Women's Day! Tell a woman why she inspires you today!