7 Ways To Feel More Pulled Together For Summer

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Hating your summer wardrobe? Thinking your new haircut looks like sh*t? Feeling kind of "meh" in general? You might have summeraphobia

Summeraphobia ˈsəmər/a/ˈfōbēə/ (noun) is categorized as an extreme or irrational fear of transitioning from spring to summer.  

1 in 3 women are plagued with summeraphobia every year. Summeraphobia is easily diagnosable if you experience the following symptoms: 

  • constant sighing
  • permanent eye rolls 
  • muscle spasms that cause you to lift only your middle finger when your husband asks, "What's wrong, honey?"
  • fake laugh
  • distaste for fun
  • beach hate
  • lack of sleep
  • unquenchable thirst for coffee and wine
  • extreme desire to scream into a pillow
  • loss of will to live after trying on swimsuits in Target
  • lack of f*cks

If you have three or more of these symptoms and experience them on a daily or even weekly basis, you might have summeraphobia

Summeraphobia cannot be cured, but it is easily treatable if you practice all or most of the following daily exercises. Summeraphobia can be contagious in some cases.

Paint your nails—

Listen. I'm not asking a lot here. You don't even have to pick a cute color. Just use some cuticle oil (if you don't know what that is, your summeraphobia might be worse than we thought), push back your cuticles with one of those wooden stick thingies, and carefully apply a clear coat. If you're feeling more adventurous, apply a base coat, two coats of your color of choice (I love this and this), and seal it with this top coat. If you don't have the patience to take care of this at home (I totally get it), head to the salon. Just try not to have a decision-making induced panic attack when they ask you which color.

Painting your nails is one of the easiest ways to look and feel more pulled together. And I would much rather see you with a fresh clear coat than with a Day 12 chipped red mani. Once the chips are noticeable, it's time for the polish to come OFF. Remember this. Love this. Live by this.

Take care of your body—

Ew, I know, right? So tough. Especially when things like stuffed crust pizza and four dollar rosé  exist. I get it. But one of the main reasons many women dread summer is because they dread showcasing their bodies. I totally understand this. When I am not feeling confident, the last thing I want to do it prance around in a bikini or a romper, BUT if you're making healthy choices daily, then you don't have to have your usual "I'll start Monday" diet every week. You'll already be ready for summer, baby!

No one wants to eat healthy all day everyday or workout 24/7, but it's all about balance and moderation. Eating CFA for lunch? Make sure you have a nutritious breakfast and dinner. Don't have time to hit the gym? Do a quick at-home work out and walk on your lunch break. If you like the way you look for summer, I promise you won't hate it. 

Restyle your summer wardrobe—

Get rid of the summer clothes that you hate. I've talked about this time and time again, but you can't hate all of your clothes if you get rid of all of the ones you hate. Donate the ones that you've had since high school, the ones that don't fit, and the ones that you just can't stand to look at any more.

Are you perpetually stumped on what to wear and how to style your body? EMAIL ME: cat@forkandfrill.com. I promise I can help you. 

If you don't necessarily hate your clothes, but you're not sure how to style them. I can help with that, too. You can also check out Pinterest and other fashion bloggers on Instagram, too. Pinterest is especially great because you can type in the exact item you're trying to style (i.e: white button up), and Pinterest will aggregate search results based on the relevance of your search terms. It's basically like Google for fashion inspiration if you use it correctly. 

Do something with your hair—

I'm not recommending you wash, blow dry, and heat style your hair every day. I'm exhausted just thinking about it. But I ammmm suggesting that if you go out in public, you do SOMETHING with your hair. 

The hairstyles (or lack thereof) that I've seen in public recently have made me question humanity. 

You don't have to do anything elaborate when you're heading to the grocery store or Target or Starbucks or whatever, but why not take an extra five minutes to make yourself look halfway presentable?? "I don't have an extra five minutes." BULLSH*T. It's all about prioritization. You don't have to look like a supermodel strolling into Publix to get mouth wash and almond milk, but for God's sake brush your teeth and throw some bobby pins in your hair. 

There are SO MANY easy heat-free hairstyles that take literally less time than reading this blog post. When I don't feel like doing my hair, but I still want to look chic, I opt for either a low pony or a half-up 'do. They're essentially effortless, but I instantly feel more pulled together when I do them. 

Invest in a feel-good bag—

Summer fashion is so FUN. The most fun, I would say. Clutches are my JAM, y'all. I have this one and live for it. But I totally get that it's not practical for every situation. 

If you're more of a larger bag lady, I feel that. I also have this one (in cream), which fits essentially everything I've ever owned. And I am also obsessed with this one. So chic! 

You can't feel too excited for summer if your summer bag is from 2010, or worse yet, it's the same bag you carry all year round. You DO actually need different bags for different seasons. I would recommend no fewer than two bags.. One darker one for the cooler months and a lighter one for warmer months. 

You might say, "I just don't want to spend money on a purse." Umm, first of all, who are you? Second of all, this is an investment in your quality of life. This may sound dramatic, but how often do you use your purse? Every day? Yes? How often does your husband use your purse to hold his wallet or keys? Every day? What about the kids? ...Exactly. 

So really, it's kind of on you to invest in your purse for your whole family. Pressure much?? Quality purses aren't cheap, that's just a fact. But you don't have to spend hundreds of dollars. Just make sure you whichever summer bag you invest in is as attractive as it is good quality. A purse is a tool, make sure you get one that works. 

And the cuter the bag, the closer to happiness, I always say. 

Trade in your old sandals—

Yes, I'm talking to you. You don't need those ratty sandals from 2002. You're better than this. It's time to part ways with them and invest in sandals that are current and quality. 

Brands I recommend that are cute AND quality (but still affordable) are Steve Madden, Sam Edelman, and Dolce Vita

I am much more likely to invest in a handbag than in shoes because I feel like there are so many affordable shoe designers that deliver consistently quality pieces. But you should def be showing your feet a little more respect than Old Navy flip flops. JUST SAYIN'. 

Take care of your face—

Mind your face, duh. IT'S YOUR LITERAL FACE. If nothing else looks good, it should. You should be taking care of your skin DAILY; I cannot stress this enough. It will make you feel so much better about life. 

Summer is great for the face because you don't have to pound on the makeup like in cooler months. You can totally get away with some concealer, tinted moisturizer, blush, and mascara. It's the best. But it's hard to pull off the no-makeup look if your skin is suffering. 

It's so hard to feel confident in general if you're not comfortable with your skin. My skin is VERY fickle. It's extremely sensitive, often dehydrated, and easily acne-prone—GREAT. But I deal with my skin and take care of my skin. every. single. day. Because I know that's one of the things I should give a sh*t about. Always. And you should, too. You are your skin. Treat it like a baby. 

My skin recommendations that I think everyone can benefit from: drink more water, take a probiotic, moisturize constantly, invest in your skin care products, and get an aesthetician whom you trust. You can thank me later. 

Skin first, makeup second. 

How do you feel about my advice to fight summeraphobia? Tell me in the comments!